Every single one of us is guilty of doing this, whether we are aware of it or not. It could be verbal, or it could be silent within ourselves, but we all do it. We lie… to ourselves/about ourselves (GASP!). Do we think we are doing this? No, because we get so caught up in these lies that we believe them. To clear things up, let me give you some examples of some of the lies that I have been guilty of, and I am sure some of you have been too:
- “I am not good enough.”
- “My life is off track.”
- “I am not worthy.”
- “I am going to be lonely forever.”
- “I have no choice.”
Our minds are more powerful than we realize and our thoughts can really impact our happiness and our perspective. Creating happiness in our lives can be hard, which is why we need to pay attention to what we tell ourselves. Oftentimes, the biggest obstacles we have are the ones we create… in our mind, which is why I am dedicating this post to turning a negative into a positive. Here are the truths that I am going to devote my life to believing:
I am strong.
Throughout my life, especially this past year I have learned a lot about myself. I have faced some tough battles and I can say without shame that there were times when I wanted to give up. I felt that I was not strong enough, and wanted to curl up in a ball and do absolutely nothing.
But guess what?! I am still here. I pushed through, and I will push through again and again. It is what I do.
“She may be little, but she is mighty.”
And remember that seeking help during difficult times is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength.
I am loveable.
When relationships fail I question everything about myself. What is wrong with me? Did I do something wrong? Am I too much to handle? In reality relationships fail for many reasons. There is no sense in overanalyzing every little thing to try to determine why something happened the way it did.
Here is the truth. Whether I am single or in a committed relationship, I am loved – and that starts we me loving myself. Not to mention, love does not only have to come from a significant other. You can receive love from family, friends, coworkers, pets, etc. and I am pretty blessed with the amount of love I receive from the people I have in my life (thank you from the bottom of my heart).
I am loved – and that starts we me loving myself.
I am good enough.
Oftentimes I find myself doubting my capabilities in my career, and in my personal life. I compare myself to others and upon comparison believe that I am not good enough.
We all have flaws. We all have struggles. I am not perfect, but is anyone really? I am where I am at today in life because I am capable. I AM FLIPPING GOOD ENOUGH! You heard me loud and clear.
I control my life.
Have you ever caught yourself blaming your surroundings for what is happening in your life? I am a culprit. We forget to reflect on our actions, and our decisions.
Everything in my life is a result of a choice that I have made. My career, my friends, my relationships, my finances… EVERYTHING. If there is something in my life that I am not happy with it is my responsibility to change it.
I deserve to live life fully, to experience all of the joy and mystery that life has to offer. The first step to achieving this is to start believing these truths about who I am, filtering my negative thoughts into positive ones. I am my only limitation and starting today I am going to be the strong, capable, loveable, worthy, beautiful, empowered woman that I know I am. Who is with me?!